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Why self-motivation can be counterproductive to your dreams

Laura Becker • 20 February 2024

It is important to become aware of the intention behind self-motivation

I remember I once heard Sadghuru, a spiritual master from India, say that “to motivate yourself” is nonsense from the west.

And at first, it triggered me for some reason. At the same time, it invited me to look further and motivated me indeed to think about it and feel into it what it means. And for myself I concluded it has a valuable teaching and understanding and maybe it can help you too. Firstly, it depends on the situation or how you define it. Words can lead to misunderstandings easily.

I am not criticising others but rather looking deeply where we can improve including myself. Where we can enhance our understanding and perspectives. Here was what I was going through in my mind. If I constantly have to motivate myself it means I’m doing something I’m not passionate about. Our essence is joy, happiness, freedom, ease and flow.

What we are passionate and good at comes naturally. Imagine I love to paint, then I will always be passionate about painting. When there is a time when I do not feel passionate about painting, I do not do it. What’s the point of motivating myself into doing it? Who I do that for? Who do I prove myself?

It sparked a curiosity within me to look deeper in my life: Where do I need to push myself? And if I push or motivate myself, is it really what I want to do right now?

Because to be honest. There are two main reasons if I am not motivated to do something.

1) It’s not my highest passion and excitement what I do

2) There might be blocks or fears that prevent me from doing it right now

Instead of motivating and pushing myself I need to look into and heal or let that go what’s blocking me. We create a lot of push energy. Where we push ourselves and this may happen at the beginning when starting out with a new habit to a certain degree but when we push and push, it’s so exhausting, it causes stress and even burnout.

We might say we have bills to pay, children to feed and that is a fair point. But then we rather got to heal and look within what are my beliefs about money? My beliefs about a life mission? Why do I give my power away to an institution or company I do not like to work for? We think we do not have any power. We often feel like we are victims. But ironically, it’s the victim consciousness that keeps us stuck there. So many people as soon as they do the inner work and claim their power and do what they love, eventually they can even sort their finances out. Life sorts itself out eventually when you do the inner work.

And for myself for example I found that one of my talents for example is about about creative stuff. If I push myself to become an astronaut right now, and I motivate myself to study maths and physics because I might to do because it might bring me money and fame eventually, is it not a constant struggle leaving to unfulfillment? Because it’s not who I am and what comes naturally to me as my talents and interests.

So, if you struggle with motivation right now, maybe the questions I asked myself can help you look deeper what is behind that the same way I did.

Two journal impulses for you about self-motivation

1) Does it really excite you from the heart what you do?

2) Is there just any blocks e.g. fear, resistance.

Then instead of motivating and pushing ourselves, it can be more serving to sit with it and look within.

I noticed it’s all about the intention behind it. Do we motivate ourselves because we hate what we do? Or motivate to become the best version and get up 15 min earlier. In the first case, the motivation is not really serving. It’s rather pushing against our own desires. It is our desires that lead us to our dreams and goals. If we do not do what we love, how shall we even come closer to our dreams and goals?

31 March 2025
10 life lessons our golden retriever taught me. Our fury friends can teach us a lot! Sometimes they master life more than we do. They master the art of relaxation, joy, community - everything we can benefit in today's society that shows increasing numbers of loneliness, depression and disconnection from each other. Here's the 10 lessons to remind ourselves of what truly matters. Authenticity What it means to be authentic and fully yourself. If you are sad, be sad. If you are mad, be mad. If you are happy, be happy. Show it. Be it. Own it. Be authentic of how you truly feel and who you truly are. In today's world that's become used to wearing a mask and trying to fit in, authenticity is rare, yet a key to being happy self. To love without expecting anything back Honestly, how many people can truly say that? Can we share a bit more love today? A bit more kindness? A bit more compassion? Without expecting anything back from another person. Just from the joy of sharing love. Oh, how beautiful. To be so joyful without making money Not a single day passes that he‘s not joyful and yet making an impact in the world just by being himself. Too often we are so concerned about money or doing something big forgetting that it’s not necessarily about money or fame or achieving something big. The more we share our joy, the more we make an impact on the people around us. We don't need to earn our worthiness. We are worthy to be happy and even good enough without money. Being in the present moment Not worrying about tomorrow. That can be a tough one. Bills, children, jobs, duties... Living in the here and now can be a challenge. Not for a dog though. Can we make more time to be more present today? Being himself He’s not ashamed of a big belly, his genitals, his little bump in his face… it’d never come to his mind to get a beauty treatment. He’d actually refuse that. It’d never cross his mind to have a bigger nose or a smaller leg. He accepts who he is. How many beauty standards tell us the opposite? Can we just see ourselves through the eyes of a dog? Can we love and accept ourselves a little more today even with all our weaknesses? A sense of community He plays peacefully with others, and the joy of gathering in a family or dog community brings as much joy as being on his own. Sometimes mingling with others instead of distancing ourselves from each other can make all the difference. In today's world, where an increasing number feels disconnected, it can help to join a community. Make the most out of each situation and circumstance No matter if there is wind, snow, rain or sun, make the most out of it. Play with a stick even in the snow. In other words, make hard circumstances fun. Find something to play with even if it’s uncomfortable. Make an uncomfortable situation comfortable. Yes, life has its ups and downs but let's not forget it's up to us what we make out of it. Take a break and chill when you feel like it Not convincing yourself to strive harder but to relax instead. My dog takes a nap whenever he likes to. He doesn't feel guilty or bad. Too often we are convinced to work a little longer and a little harder. Can we just remind ourselves to take more (little) breaks without feeling guilty if we feel like resting? Observe The best thing you can sometimes do is to simply sit and observe. Observe yourself and others without judging or attacking or engaging. There’s a power behind observation. Can we simply observe things as if we were on Earth for the first day? We’d see things in a completely new way. Be persistent Especially with food or if he wants something. He's persistent. So if you want something, stick with it. Be persistent. Never give up. There is always this little hope even if no food is left on the plate, the small crumbs count too. Our fury friends are more than just dogs. They are friends, healers, comforters, teachers and remind us to enjoy life a bit more!
25 March 2025
I remember I was sitting back home in a small town in Germany. My life crumbled a couple time ago. Yet, I put myself out there. I did what a lot of people do. Engage in personal development. Read books. Absorb courses and content. Ready to start over doing what I love. More freedom. And I could see some first fruits of the work I put in for weeks, months, if not years. It didn’t show up in a way I wanted or expected it to be. It didn’t show up in money, or financial overflow, to be precise. But it showed up in more joy, in tons of realisations, ideas, a new sense of self. A promising future. But I didn’t see it as such back then. And that’s the first realisation I had looking back and only realising now. Abundance is not all about money. Abundance is the wealth of ideas, realisations, vitality, health, opportunities and much more. So as I didn’t see monetary fruits I went within and there was that certain thing that told me to go to Asia. And deep down I thought Asia could help me solve my problems. Yet, What I didn’t realise. Most decisions are unconscious and based on certain patterns and beliefs we hold deep within. (I just remember I had certain doubts about going to Bali.. it was rainy season. Was it really the place? I asked myself.) Looking back. The truth was this: I was kind of escaping from my reality in Europe. And I’m not ashamed to be vulnerable enough to admit it, I’m glad to finally realise it to break out of it. And I see a lot of people with similar issues that are on the “spiritual path”. I thought Europe was full of corruption only to realise much later that nothing exists outside of you. Europe is not full of corruption unless you hold those things deep within your subconscious that makes you have those perceptions and experiences. And so it happened, I came to Bali. And by all means. It’s a beautiful island. There’s a certain hype that Bali provides healing. And it certainly does. I had my fair moments, I had inspiring encounters that I’ll cherish but I also had massive learning lessons. I had healing , I had disappointments, and I had massive realisations. But after 7 weeks of Bali I flew home with the exact issues than before. And it taught me the biggest lesson. You cannot escape your reality. You cannot move to a place like India or Bali and expect them to change you. I mean they may do so. They may shape you. I’m not denying that. But the biggest learning lesson I had for myself was this: it’s never really about a place. It’s your internal belief system. If you’re escaping a place without making full peace over there, then those issues will hit you one day, even years or decades or lifetimes later in one way or another until you face them. Here’s how it showed up in my life. I arrived in Bali and I could suddenly remember a previous life. And I honestly believe - at least that is my experience - when we feel attracted to a certain place we either had a previous life or there’s a certain energy we resonate with. I remember I was this monk that was visiting Bali in a previous lifetime, I could see myself walking past a street, trying to find enlightenment or let’s put it less scary: finding answers about who I was. I could see myself as the version of a monk running from one place to the next, praying in one temple after the other, and that pattern was repeating itself. Trying to find the answer or solve the problem on the outside. And this pattern repeated unconsciously, just in a different setting in this lifetime: Me changing apartments all the time in Bali as I simply didn’t feel good. Me trying to go to different healing places and mentors and so on. And while I got very valuable and inspirational conversations and healing experiences I wouldn’t want to miss, I realised the biggest pattern that was limiting me and that was repeating itself unconsciously: Looking for help, answers, inspiration, saviour on the outside. Exactly what made me go to Bali. The unconscious pattern of travelling somewhere to find something somewhere else outside of me. And I’m not saying to never get help or inspiration. There’s a subtle difference between getting guidance from someone and kind of relying or becoming dependent on external help. And this is to encourage you if you feel sad and disappointed in your current home. You don’t need to travel somewhere to feel better. It’s a pattern I observed in other people in Bali and other places more often than I thought. The constant need for self optimisation or spiritual healing. And it made me realise. We are all not so different after all. Instead of just feeling good enough for a moment for who we are without trying to *be* whatever or even being or becoming someone else. And That’s what i mean. If you don’t solve the pattern it’ll chase you even to the next lifetimes. And without a doubt, a travel, a healing session all of that can massively support you but the most important lesson to always keep in mind: you can only find the answer within. You can only solve the issue within. Not by escaping your old home or reality but rather by questioning the self that keeps you limited or made you create and experience that reality in the first place. And it can mean to face deep pain and uncomfortable emotions and break your own limitations. Let’s remember. We create everything. We even create religions and politicians as long as we consider ourselves unworthy and powerless. I honestly believe that those systems serve a purpose and won’t disappear until we change ourselves and finally realise we are powerful creators. And a lot of those unconscious programs that run in the background can come from previous religious life’s, amongst others, no generalisations here. Religions and other systems want to make us believe that the answer is to be found in a book, in a place , in the sky. Wherever. All that keeps you stuck. Powerless. And I recall the most touching moment I remember from this previous lifetime as a monk. The monk finally came to a temple and he perceived the voice of a high priest deep within his heart, who is not linked to any religion, it’s a person that’s attained a high level of conciousness in a lifetime and can provide guidance. And he told the monk telepathically that the answer is not to be found in a temple but deep within. The monk finally found what he was looking for. The priest asked the monk to go back home and share his truth with others. But the monk didn’t. Out of the fear of judgment what other monks and people think of him. He died sadly for not speaking his truth and pretending not knowing. And now when I recalled the eexperience, I kind of connected with this high priest who asked the monk and me at the same time as we are one and the same, simply different expressions: Are you telling the truth this time in this lifetime? Or repeating the same ‘pattern’ as the previous version of you as a monk? I was facing the same issue again in this lifetime. Not speaking my truth. And I made a pact this time. I’m not escaping. I’m embracing old shattered unworthy aspects and even love those for they served a purpose and finally learn to live and share my truth. Too often we are so scared of sharing our truth. It’s hurtful and hard to be vulnerable especially if it contradicts with what so many other people and books say. But let’s not forget we don’t break patterns by keeping up the fear of speaking up. We break the pattern by just doing so. By speaking up. By allowing ourselves to be and speak our truth and allow others to speak their truth. And so I flew back after spending in Bali for 7 weeks with the biggest realisation. To no longer escape my current reality. But to face it. To not find the solution in a spiritual place or a place that’s considered spiritual but rather within myself. Because let’s be honest. The whole world is energy. I personally believe or at least that’s my current experience, our soul chose a certain body, nationality, parents to have certain experiences and to learn or release certain patterns. And I fly back to Europe with a certain level of excitement. To finally embrace old aspects of myself that were trapped and even fragmented. And for the first time, I can appreciate my home place for what it is. A place my soul chose for this lifetime to have certain experiences and learning lessons. To make peace with the old versions of myself first before choosing which place calls me next. Not from a place of escaping from home but truly feeling good with who I am and releasing who I’m not. And my biggest realisation: Money and unworthiness go hand in hand. It’s not necessarily about affirmations, following a certain strategy, I did all of that and it didn’t help me. It’s deep codes and beliefs in the subconscious mind that are blocking the flow of abundance just like an old malicious file on your computer or phone does despite you trying everything to restore the battery. It won’t unless you kick out that old app or file. And so it’s the same. It’s not about getting new apps aka new homes and friends and places, it’s about kicking out what no longer serves first before you can think of getting new apps aka new homes, friends or *insert whatever*. And yet I’m glad that Bali helped me see my fragmented self’s. And to finally be more of who I truly am. And that’s all that’s required. Life doesn’t ask you to become someone special. But just release everything that holds you back from being yourself. Bali didn’t change me, but the experiences helped me see things and recognise patterns within me that I didn’t see before. And that’s the beauty of growth ♥️ Let’s remember the most important thing no matter what experiences we may or may not have gone through and it’s this: That nothing was a mistake. Nothing was a coincidence. Nothing was lost. Nothing was wrong. It was all an experience to help you grow further. To evolve into greater and greater versions of who you truly are. Embrace new aspects. And be more of who you truly are. And I would like to share a spiritual joke by one of my hosts here in Bali with a great sense of humour It’s Air Ubud and while you can encounter some animals there, it has a certain ‘vibe’ Let’s not be so spiritual … let’s be more real! 🙃 P.S. My words are more than words. They carry energies that can help you spot patterns and release codes. So if you feel some weird emotions or questioning certain things. It’s a good sign If you’re curious about downloads, I’ll soon teach you more about how to co create with your higher self’s so that you can receive downloads and ideas so that you can start embodying the full version of who you are. It’s more than visualising a bright future in your mind. It’s the embodiment of your inner gifts that want to be expressed and that can only be expressed through you, no one else. That’s your unique blueprint. That’s where the magic and often the fear starts. Stay tuned ✨
15 January 2025
There was a time I pushed myself too far. And I constantly felt miserable for not being as far yet. And the worst thing? I didn’t even realise it. I kept working. I kept pushing until I felt drained one day. I jumped from one activation, course and healing session to the next, trying to manifest or create the life I truly desired. But something felt challenging all the time. I remembered when a couple of times my intuition told me to stop taking so many courses and trying so hard to manifest and instead, take time to trust my own inner guidance and apply what I learned in those courses, and yet, I was ignoring those signs or at least I didn’t trust my own intuition. I was longing for more knowledge and without a doubt, taking courses can be great! Courses can help you find inspiration. However, in my case, the need to book another course and another course often reflected my unconscious pattern of not feeling healed enough. Not feeling good enough. Not feeling capable enough of trusting myself. I had so much knowledge, and yet I still couldn’t manifest. And by participating in one healing course after the next, in one activation after the next, I did have new downloads, new ideas and new visions, things that a lot of people dream of, but I was lacking one thing: embodiment and trust in myself. I couldn’t handle making those ideas a reality as I was still operating from my old limiting self of “not feeling capable enough.” And that was one reason why I couldn’t turn my visions into reality. And the lesson was this: You have to embody the version that can follow your ideas and dreams otherwise you cannot “manifest.” Because every time you are nudged to take action, there is this “I cannot do it now, maybe tomorrow” excuse. Because I hadn’t learned to embody the new version of me. There came a point I pushed myself too far. I had various ideas and visions, but I couldn’t get anything manifested into the physical world. And while there were several reasons for it that I later discovered, I want to highlight one reason I wouldn’t do anymore: putting myself under so much pressure and jump from one healing session to the next to get there as quickly as possible. Instead, I took a different approach and I started to allow myself to grow at my own pace. Instead, I learned to listen to my own body. I learned of methods how to deal with my own fears rather than becoming dependent on a healer or coach all the time asking them what the next step for me was. Don’t get me wrong. It’s great to get help and have healing sessions. But in my case, I’ve seen you can take it to a level where it no longer serves you at the highest. It almost becomes like an addiction. Just like some people are addicted to smoking, others are addicted to constantly booking another healing session. Often not because you need it, it’s rather acting on the subconscious pattern of not feeling healed or good enough. But it’s not true. You can always take the next step. And that’s exactly it. You don’t have to have everything healed or figured out. Knowing the next step is more than enough. Also, you cannot just heal. You need time to embody and integrate, too. So instead of trying to have ALL my fears and limitations healed by others, I learned methods on how to deal with my own fears when they arise. And that’s what finally brought me results. I put away the pressure of getting somewhere quickly or trying to have it all figured out. I no longer asked others what they thought would be the right step for me. Instead, I started to trust myself. I finally started to trust that my own soul has its own rhythm. I learned to flow with the rhythm of life. And to be honest, it’s sometimes easier said than done. But it’s also the most rewarding. Because you gain a deeper trust in yourself. You get to learn to trust your intuition. You get to trust yourself to do it the way that feels most aligned to you. You get to know yourself better. You know when to rest and when to take action. And ironically, that’s when you can progress the most. What sounds like a contradiction is not. At the beginning, I was trying to get activated. I rushed from one course to the next hoping to manifest my dream life as quickly as possible and I could get some results but other times it backfired. I felt worn out. And I am glad I did. Because it gave me that big learning lesson to stop rushing. Stop putting pressure on myself. Stop trying to “get” somewhere as fast as possible. Finding my own rhythm was what finally helped me solve this problem. When I stopped rushing, I allowed myself to take little actions each day. And what seemed like tiny little steps added up after a while. And that’s another thing I learned about manifestation. It’s not that one healing session or course that will solve your life. It’s not that one big action that will finally make you have it all – of course there are miracles. But often, it’s the little steps and consistent action that bring you the results you want. In other words, it's not just about learning, it's applying what you learn. Because you learn with each action that you take. You embody more of who you truly are and you learn to spot and release what no longer serves. That makes you powerful. Because suddenly you become aware of your own internal beliefs, excuses, emotions and fears that hold you back. You learn to navigate them better. That’s why I can highly recommend finding your own rhythm. Don’t stress if someone tells you they manifested their dream life in “6 months” and you’re still not there after 2 years and you start feeling miserable. Each soul has its own rhythm. And souls are not in a rush anyway. When you slow down and put off the pressure, you allow yourself to move at your own pace. That feels so peaceful. There is so much flow coming in just going at your own pace. And that’s when you suddenly come so far as you give up on the pressure. It reminds me a bit of driving a car. When you rush through on the fast lane, you might be there a bit earlier, but it can feel so stressful and exhausting; you may barely have the time to enjoy the car ride. You are constantly trying to pass the other cars and getting there fast. You may even need a break when you get to your destination. When you move in a slower and yet steady pace that feels most aligned to you, you can enjoy the process. You feel relaxed. And sometimes you realise that being in the fast lane doesn't necessarily bring you faster to your destination, as you may come across obstacles, too. If you constantly feel unhealed or constantly think you need another course and another activation, and you feel this constant pressure inside you, stop and pause for a moment. Ask yourself: is it really what I need? Or do I act on subconscious patterns? For all those that are interested in working with me further. In my latest Masterclass “Overcome your fears”, I teach you all about how I learned to spot excuses, fears and limiting beliefs – exactly what holds you back from taking consistent action each day. I show you how you can release that in your pace in order to take consistent action. With the right methods, you can move at your own pace and learn to trust your own inner guidance to take the next step. You realise you are far better off than you think! It's often just our own inner critic that makes us believe we are not far enough. In the end, manifestation is not always about getting results fast. It’s about embodying more of who you truly are and do more of what you truly love. That will bring you lasting success. Give yourself the time you need.
26 October 2024
I remember back in 2020 I travelled to Sri Lanka. My intuition told me to travel there. Yet, back then I had no idea it was my intuition. It was just a strong attraction or pull. Like sometimes some countries call us. We feel a strong pull without really describing what exactly it is. It was during the pandemic that people advised me not to go there. On top of that, Sri Lanka experienced some political upheaval. But my intuition, something from within, pulled me there. So I trusted myself, back then I wouldn’t often trust myself, but it was one of those moments I didn’t care what other people told me. When I arrived in Sri Lanka, I felt like home. Not that I would move there, but something was like home. Like arriving somewhere familiar. Where you could relax straight away. Where your nervous system calms down. Where you are in awe. On my way from the airport to the destination was a 2-hour drive. I was in awe by the nature – so many palms, bananas – driving along the ocean left me speechless. I could quickly relax. I could reflect on life. I felt so good. Sri Lanka has a great energy – at least I noticed that if a place calls you then because something matches within you. In Sri Lanka, I didn‘t observe or experience any political upheaval as described in the news – which made me realise that the news can dramatize and exaggerate and even put things that are simply not accurate – and the scarier thing is how many people buy into the news without knowing the truth. I experienced so much friendliness and kindness. The Sri Lankan I met were one of the kindest people I’ve ever met. And I heard from others they found Sri Lankis aggressive – and that was my second realisation. You cannot generalise! And surely not generalise for a whole nation. Let’s be honest, there are rude individuals in every country and yet there are as many nice people in every single country. IT made me realise it depends how you encounter people too. It depends on your own energy and how you treat other people. Then one evening, I took a TukTuk which is like a motorbike and bicycle in one – somehow their equivalent to a car, cars are less frequent, at least at that time. I met a TukTuk driver who wanted to charge me more than the other drivers. And I started to bargain and he insisted on the price and I couldn’t see anyone else and it was getting dark. I got a little furious. Then when I got back to my room, I thought like Sri Lanka is officially considered a 3rd world country. People live in little houses, houses that wouldn’t even be accepted in many European countries. They see tourists be in hotels paying more for a night than there weekly or monthly wage. And I really started questioning my own behaviour. Do I really need to bargain? Do I want to be that person who bargains for 50 cents? It made me question my own behaviour. And I observed that many others were like me. I decided to be generous. And that’s what people in Sri Lanka taught me. Being helpful. Being kind. Smile. The Sri Lankans I met smiled a lot because I smiled at them! And that’s another thing. When you smile, the world smiles back! Your energy, attitude and respect towards people even of different cultural background matter. It’s what people reflect back to you. I travelled to another area later. And one night it happened. There was a power cut shortage ordered by the government. People didn’t have any power for the whole night basically from 7pm – no WIFI, no lights in the rooms– and that was the night one of the worst thunderstorms hit Sri Lanka – I was in my dark hotel room by the sea being completely scared. I could feel the lightning hit the ocean – or that’s at least what it felt like – as if the ocean was shaking - a feeling I’ve never felt before. It didn’t stop. It made me realise what a precious life we live. Many people desperately want to manifest money and abundance, and I totally get it, I was no different. But in those moments you realise how abundant we are – having light, WIFI, a high standard of living… So, that made me realise that abundance or the lack of it only exists in our head/mind! And the beliefs we hold in our mind make us experience the lack. Something else almost made me tear up. As the lights went off and it was getting dark, there were many tourists who didn’t know about that event and felt lost without WIFI and had no clue how to get home. It was many locals who were there in their poor wood cottages with a candle guiding tourists to their home places, telling the way in such a kind and helpful way. Ironically, a lot of hotels (not mine, as I was staying locally) had power aggregates, they were the only ones who had lights and WIFI. And I had so much respect for those Sri Lankan people guiding people home. Instead of venting about tourists having light, they showed so much compassion. It taught me a lot about humanity. You can have all the money in the world, but at the end of your life you leave without. It’s not how much you have, it’s who you are and how you treat people. I once read a quote “People will forget what you said, but they’ll never forget how you made them feel” And that’s so true for me. I will never forget my stay in Sri Lanka. And while I believe each travel experience is unique, I wouldn’t generalise for a whole nation, my experience was superb. I had another TukTuk driver who told me his dream would be Europe, especially Germany. He told me we would have lots of money. And I told him. “No you live in a dream place here” I think it sparked confusion between both of us wanting to swap countries in that moment. When I came back to Europe, I was so surprised at how fast-paced everything was, how stressed everyone looked. Sri Lankan people had so much less and actually more to worry about than us, and didn’t nearly look and feel so stressed than many people in the streets of many European cities do. So always remember, stress, lack and suffering happen in the mind. In fact, it doesn’t matter where you are. Some people think they first need to travel somewhere to find themselves, and while some countries may have a special energy, you can be happy and joyful everywhere. Joy is an inside state of being. It cannot be achieved through material goods. This doesn’t mean we aren’t allowed to have material goods, of course we do, yet it’s a reminder to appreciate the things we have and what’s truly important, especially in times of great misunderstandings and political insecurities. To come together as one nation. To have compassion for others. To show others love and offer some help if we can help. After I returned back, I knew why I was guided to go to Sri Lanka. I learned so many learning lessons I couldn’t have learned in any book. And it made me aware it’s not what you read in the news or in books, it’s the experience that counts. And it made me realise another thing. How important it is to follow our heart when we travel. Often, we may also travel to a place because it’s “the place to be” or a blogger talks about that or because of the price. I understand that too, however, sometimes it’s not about those shallow reasons, it’s rather where your heart leads you to. I’m so glad I listened to my heart and travelled to that country. It made me feel so rich on the inside, I felt like a better version of myself. So sometimes the countries you feel a magnetic pull towards have a gift for you. And even if it’s no material gift and simply a good time, nice encounters with people or major life realisations. Who knows what countries have to offer. Sometimes following our intuition can lead us to new opportunities. So it’s so much more valuable than all those visualisations and dreams we hold in the mind. Sometimes it’s really important to become “desireless” and allow the ideas and inspiration from your intuition to flow. Just when that sudden idea popped up “Sri Lanka” when I pondered where I could travel. To my mind, it didn’t make that much sense, but I realised my heart knew why. What does this have to do with manifestation you may say? A lot if you ask me. It reminds us to spend our moments consciously. To follow our intuition. To be kind. To be open-minded. To encounter as beings as part of you. The more you move into a state of being like that, the more miracles and opportunities will unfold. I could have gone to XY because someone else found it nice but I wouldn't have made the same experiences.
18 October 2024
Here are three tips if you are dealing with depression, low moments, or a phase in your life where things don’t feel well. 1) Remind yourself that you’re not living forever. One day you’ll die. Make the most out of life! What are you waiting for? You can sit here depressed or do something fun in your life. You may say it's not possible, but look at children. Most children don't often think as much as we do as adults! They just do it! They play in the sand, they jump in puddles - they experience a certain form of aliveness by being in the present moment! They don't care what others think or if it's the "right" or "wrong" thing to do. They just do it for the fun of it! Nothing is forever, not even depression. 2) It’s a choice. How you feel and the way you think are choices. Yes, it’s hard to understand. Trust me, many people, including myself, have gone through phases and challenges in their lives that felt tough both emotionally and mentally – so you’re not alone. The only person that can get you out of it is yourself! It depends on what you make out of it. Be overwhelmed by it, or look closer. What has caused it? 3) Even a so called “negative” experience or “illness” can help you find who you truly are. Remember what brings you joy. It can help you to connect yourself deeper and become aware of your internal world. Most people are busy with the "external world", but true healing starts within. The more we master our internal world, the more our external world starts to shift. Inner balance is key. The more we move into inner balance, the more our whole system starts to calm down. When we bring ourselves into an inner state of balance and harmony, we can heal any mental disorder or temporary challenge.
19 August 2024
Some people are currently curious which method or technique is the best. I’ve come to realise over the past years that there is no right or wrong technique, there is only the technique that serves you best at this moment in time. That can be different for each one of us. It depends on your level of consciousness, too. Whatever technique feels good for you is the right one for you. I had a time in my life, I was doing a lot of affirmations and it was helping to calm my mind and establish a positive mindset. Later, when I raised my consciousness, I found that affirmations do have certain limitations and it requires more than affirmations to create a life in true abundance. Yet, do I believe that affirmations are wrong? No, they are not. They helped me get to the next step. Sometimes one technique helps you have certain realizations or release certain limitations before you can move to the next phase of your life. Why I am mentioning this is to encourage you not to worry too much about the right or wrong technique. There is no right or wrong. The more we think in terms of right or wrong or whether it will work for us or not, the more we are in the energy of doubt. That’s the least we need when manifesting our desires. Sometimes a certain technique may serve you for a while in order to have some more realisations. From my current observation, there are people with many different levels of consciousness and as a result, there are different methods and techniques to suit different needs and preferences. I also had a time I was worried about finding the right technique and exactly that search kept me from living the life I truly wanted. Why? Because I didn’t trust myself enough. Therefore, my advice is to always trust your inner voice what feels good for you . What feels good for you, is the right technique for you, but not necessarily the right technique for someone else. And yet, it’s fine to question certain beliefs and ways of doing things. Sometimes we outgrow certain methods and techniques and even teachers and mentors, and that is fine. A lot of people are currently reactivating new soul gifts, talents or learning to trust their intuition. It’s a very exciting time and process. Listening to the feeling or inner voice was the most important thing on my journey. It guides you towards the next step that is required for you. The process itself can look different to each single one of us. There is always more than one way to get where we want to be. I If you are unsure, you can always try out different techniques and see what works best for you. So, relax. You're doing fine.
8 August 2024
Sometimes, in a world that is full of noise, stimuli and advertisement, taking time alone can be a wonderful opportunity to take a break from everyday life. To take time to slow down. Relax. Recharge. It’s also a great opportunity to connect with yourself. To spend some time to re-evaluate what’s truly important and what no longer aligns in your life. Taking time alone is not selfish or weird; it’s an act of self-love and self-respect. Suddenly you realize how all the stress disappears once you calm your mind. Taking time alone doesn’t necessarily mean you have to travel far, unless you feel guided to. Taking time alone can be a couple of minutes alone in your home, in nature, or somewhere that makes you feel good. Some people may argue that they don’t have time or they have other duties or children, yet it’s our job to fill our cups first. How else can we serve others if our cups are empty? It’s not necessarily about whether we have time, but rather what and who do we make time for? Taking time alone doesn’t mean you feel lonely. You simply enjoy your own company. The better you know yourself, the better you can interact with the world around you. From my observation, especially “introverts” often feel the desire to spend some time alone. Some people are generally very sensitive to loud noise or other people’s emotions and like to spend some time alone. Here are some inspirations on how to spend time alone. 1) Read a book 2) Take a bath 3) Go to nature or the wood 4) Take a quiet seat in your home and simply close your eyes and focus on your breathing 5) Drive to a lake and/or go for a walk 6) Journal 7) Explore a new part of a town by walking and observe the environment In a busy and noisy world, it’s extremely important to spend time for ourselves and recharge. The more we recharge ourselves and become aware of our internal world, the less likely we are to fall into stress, burnout or depression.
5 August 2024
One thing I came to realise was the importance of trying. Especially towards our dreams and heart's desires. I noticed in my life that there is often an underlying fear of failing. It is not so obvious at first. But behind distractions, excuses and stories are often fears. And in our society a lot is based on success. But success is relative. There are people that define success by financial gain and there are people that define success by the amount of impact they make in the world. And others don’t even try because they are so scared of failing. Yet, failing is nothing bad. We simply have not learned how to handle failures or we see it as “weak” or “unsuccessful”. Yet, failures can be wonderful teachers. Failures can teach us a lot of lessons. They can teach us about our own limitations. Looking back so far, I learned the most out of my failures. And sometimes I am so grateful that things didn’t work out. Because they were not meant for me and something much better came along. And other times, I simply learned my lesson. And I was even grateful the mistake or failure happened or I couldn’t have understood it any better way. Even if those moments were uncomfortable, they turned out to be a gift much later. So if you have nudge or play with the thought of trying something new - go for it! Don’t let fear of failure hold you back. You can never know how things turn out if you don’t try them. I was scared of trying a lot of times. Until I just gave it a go. It takes courage and some people don’t understand you or think you are out of your mind. Until I realised that’s the best thing to do… Being out of your mind. Literally lol The more you are in your mind, the more overthinking can occur. The less you are in your mind, the more you simply give it a try. And after a while, you take things and opinions of others less seriously. Keep trying!
15 May 2024
Finding out what you truly want is key. It is about taking action.
by Laura Becker 3 May 2024
Take the first steps no matter how "imperfect" it feels
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